Have you ever had a friend or family member who just cannot seem to make a “relationship” work out? Relationship in this case is defined as a state of affairs existing between those having relations or dealings with one another. Be it romantic, work, family, or whatever, there is a relationship that exists. Who is at fault when a relationship does not work out the way it was intended or when it ceases to exist?
Relationships tend to exist by a matter of declaration, mutual alignment, or by default born into the relationship. A declared relationship is one that is initiated by a declaration, be it spoken or unspoken. For example, “I really like spending time with you and I would like to continue seeing you”. A workplace relationship is a great example of a relationship that is initiated through mutual alignment. Regardless of how a relationship begins, its workability is determined on an ongoing basis by matter of choice. Simply stated, one of the participants chooses to have it work for them or not.
The common belief shared by many people is that for a relationship to work out in a way that benefits both parties it should be a 50/50 relationship. That is to say each party brings their 50% to the relationship and by some sort of osmosis they meld together to become blissful. When something goes wrong in the relationship it is usually the fault of the other person’s percentage being flawed or misaligned. Hardly ever will someone say, “The 50% that I brought to the relationship just didn’t work”. It does not take much to see that a 50/50 relationship will seldom work out for either party. So what will work? Try this one on for size…A relationship in which one of the parties brings 100% to the relationship.
Let us pretend that you are entering a new relationship. It can be a work relationship, an intimate relationship, or we could even be talking about a relationship with a family member. If you operate within the context that you are 100% satisfied and fulfilled in the relationship, and that you bring that satisfaction and fulfillment by a matter of choice and declaration, then you will always be 100% satisfied and fulfilled. No longer will you be waiting for them to do something or say something to make you happy or fulfilled. You are there because you are happy and fulfilled. Why…Because you say so! As a matter of declaration, you have removed the obstacles of having a happy and fulfilled relationship. What obstacles? The expectations that the other person need give you something in order to be happy and fulfilled. Be honest…Even if the other person were to deliver upon all of your expectations that you had, they would still not completely satisfy you! By declaring that you are bringing 100% to a relationship, you begin to cause your own life and are no longer at the effect of what the other did or did not say or do in order to fulfill your imaginary needs. A matter of being in that relationship fulfills you. A completely new paradigm for being related opens up to you and this new paradigm is one that has you become cause in the matter of your own life!
A freedom exists in this new paradigm, but it requires you to give up the idea that happiness and fulfillment lives outside of you. The freedom can only begin to exist when the realization is that happiness and fulfillment is a matter of being, and ultimately it is created or declared by one’s self. This requires a new way of thinking, but how well has the old way of thinking worked out for you?
Monday, October 24, 2011
Thursday, December 16, 2010
Where Do You Stand?
Let’s face it, each day we are inundated with news about the struggling economy, joblessness, and rising costs of goods and services. Each new day brings another story about a company that has laid off part of its workforce, or warns of the looming possibility. In worst-case scenarios staff reductions may have hit you personally. So where do you stand?
When a job loss is suffered personally, it is almost by default that feelings of anger, resentment and worry will occur. Consider that these feelings are protective by nature and designed by our “self” as an immediate defense mechanism to survive the traumatic experience. What is done with these feelings and how they are managed is what will make a difference. Accepting the situation as what’s so and dealing with it is a great place to start! The job that was once there is no longer there…that’s what’s so. What happens next?
Get in action! Take control over the situation and become cause in the matter and not at its affect. There is a choice here actually, and the choice is to wallow in the circumstances that have presented themselves or to stand in the possibility of a new future and go after it. There is real power in the second choice, and it has the job seeker show up to interviews as confident, determined, responsible, and appropriate for the job. Being cause in the matter of the situation at hand will empower the job search even when perceived obstacles are in the way. If you are that life stinks, everything is doomed, and there is no hope, then that is exactly what you will communicate to any prospective employer when you are interviewing- be it verbal or unspoken.
As a recruiter at GameRecruiter, I have the pleasure of speaking with dozens of people daily, and I have developed a talent for hearing what I like to call “unsaid communication”. The unsaid communication can also be labeled a background of concern, or at its most elementary stage, it might be referred to as a mood. Regardless of what it’s called, it’s always present, and yes, I do mean always! The words being spoken can be saying one thing, and the “unsaid communication” could quite often be saying something completely contrary. What’s important to know here is that your unspoken communication is received as loudly as the spoken. When I speak with someone searching for a job for an amount of time that they feel is too long, I can hear the resignation and cynicism in their communication. It is not my intention to downplay the struggles that are faced after losing employment; however, these emotions and feelings must be confronted and replaced with motivation and determination if the intention is to interview as a good candidate.
In summation, a job seeker that begins a new career search with the context being “There are no jobs out there for me and the economy stinks”, is likely to go home with proof that the economy stinks because they didn’t find a job. My mantra is this: “Life is a game that you are playing like it or not. You can either get on the field and play it or sit in the stands and watch it pan out. Either choice will work, but regardless you are in the game until it’s finished. If you get on the field and play a while you might just win!”
When a job loss is suffered personally, it is almost by default that feelings of anger, resentment and worry will occur. Consider that these feelings are protective by nature and designed by our “self” as an immediate defense mechanism to survive the traumatic experience. What is done with these feelings and how they are managed is what will make a difference. Accepting the situation as what’s so and dealing with it is a great place to start! The job that was once there is no longer there…that’s what’s so. What happens next?
Get in action! Take control over the situation and become cause in the matter and not at its affect. There is a choice here actually, and the choice is to wallow in the circumstances that have presented themselves or to stand in the possibility of a new future and go after it. There is real power in the second choice, and it has the job seeker show up to interviews as confident, determined, responsible, and appropriate for the job. Being cause in the matter of the situation at hand will empower the job search even when perceived obstacles are in the way. If you are that life stinks, everything is doomed, and there is no hope, then that is exactly what you will communicate to any prospective employer when you are interviewing- be it verbal or unspoken.
As a recruiter at GameRecruiter, I have the pleasure of speaking with dozens of people daily, and I have developed a talent for hearing what I like to call “unsaid communication”. The unsaid communication can also be labeled a background of concern, or at its most elementary stage, it might be referred to as a mood. Regardless of what it’s called, it’s always present, and yes, I do mean always! The words being spoken can be saying one thing, and the “unsaid communication” could quite often be saying something completely contrary. What’s important to know here is that your unspoken communication is received as loudly as the spoken. When I speak with someone searching for a job for an amount of time that they feel is too long, I can hear the resignation and cynicism in their communication. It is not my intention to downplay the struggles that are faced after losing employment; however, these emotions and feelings must be confronted and replaced with motivation and determination if the intention is to interview as a good candidate.
In summation, a job seeker that begins a new career search with the context being “There are no jobs out there for me and the economy stinks”, is likely to go home with proof that the economy stinks because they didn’t find a job. My mantra is this: “Life is a game that you are playing like it or not. You can either get on the field and play it or sit in the stands and watch it pan out. Either choice will work, but regardless you are in the game until it’s finished. If you get on the field and play a while you might just win!”
Wednesday, July 7, 2010
Lessons From A Kid
Throughout my life there have been so many times that I have "wanted" to do something or "thought" about doing something, but I just never followed through with or completed. There have been lots of things actually, like going back to school, becoming a police officer, writing a book, and the list goes on and on. I'm almost certain that I am not alone in this category either. Things always seemed to come up or I just never took the initiative to get something started as it related to my desire or dream. Even worse are the times that I did actually get myself in action around whatever it was I intended to do, but then I never completed the steps necessary to see it finalized. I found myself with a large trail of incomplete dreams and goals which didn't exactly empower me, and I was sick of feeling like a failure. Failure might actually be too severe to label myself back then, but it sure sums up how I felt. If you were to ask my friends and family they would say I was doing well. I owned my own home, was a successful recruiter, and had great health. Still it felt as if there was something missing. The missing in my life was soon to be exposed however, and it was actually made crystal clear to me while I was on a call with a student who wanted to break into the Games Industry. By all means this prospective candidate was way too junior for me to assist. The kid had just graduated college and hadn't had any real experience in the industry yet, but there was something in his voice that kept me talking to him, and I am glad that I did!
The kid speaking to me on the phone was typical of most college grads that I had grown accustomed to speaking to. He described his studies to me and he was sure to go into great detail about the projects that he had worked on. By trade he was an animator, and I will admit that the animation that he did for his class projects looked pretty good. After listening to him speak for a few minutes I began to steer the call toward a conclusion so that I could get on with my day. At this point in my career as a recruiter I had a standard closing line that I almost always used when trying to end a call with a candidate that I thought was too junior to present to one of our clients. The line went something like... "I will keep your resume on file and update you if any of our clients are looking for good entry level talent". Just as I began to speak the first few words of that sentence the kid interrupted me. He said something that I will never forget, which was "I need someone to believe in me enough, if only once, just long enough for me to show them how good I am" "That being said, I am asking you to give me a shot and believe in me." I was stopped dead in my tracks and speechless! What was I to say to THAT! Reluctantly I agreed to see what I could do for him. My suggestion was that he create a new demo reel with his best recent work and supply me with the link within 5 days. I promised to review his work and get back to him with my thoughts in one week's time. The kid agreed and I got back to work cold calling the "seasoned" candidates on my list in hopes of making a placement happen soon. To be honest I figured that he would forget to send me the demo I requested and that I could just forget about him. In fact, after a hour or so I had completely forgot about him and his call all together. That is until the fourth day came and I received the link to the demo that I had requested.
Honestly I had mixed emotions when the link to his demo arrived in my inbox. My Client Manager was a veteran recruiter and she scrutinized my candidates very closely before submitting them to the client. She was good at what she did, and there was no arguing her decisions. One of the main rules was no entry level or fresh graduates. I was told over and over that our clients did not want kids out of school. So, with those thoughts running through my head, I clicked the link to the demo site. Had I not known this demo was sent from a newly graduated student, I would have guessed it to be that of an industry veteran! It was GOOD! The demo was so good that I actually picked up the phone right then and called the kid! I really didn't fully believe that I was looking at his work. Really...it was that good. The kid picked up the phone on the second ring and his voice sounded just as confident and assured as the first time we spoke. He chuckled when I asked him if what I was watching was really his work. I honestly couldn't figure out why someone hadn't already hired this kid! In fact, that was my next question actually...what has been the outcome of his interviews or resumes. With his usual confidence, the kid explained to me that he has yet to be called back, never mind an interview. Before I could stop myself I said to him "that's a shame because you have such great talent and you must get really down and out about the lack of response". My statement was quickly corrected with his response. "NO...I am not discouraged at all". "I know that I am good and soon enough I will have my turn". I wasn't so sure he was right though, and I told him that sometimes things just don't work out.
Weeks went by and the kid would continue to check in with me. By this point is was just over a month since I received his demo, and there wasn't a single requisition that allowed for less than 7 years experience. I never presented his resume anywhere because I didn't want to look bad or get chewed out by my client manager, and I kind of hoped that he would eventually just give up. Then came the call that I had been anticipating but dreading...his call. He was calling to check in and to ask me if there was anything new to share with him. While he was on the phone I looked over our open requisitions and I was prepared to deliver my standard "NO" when I remembered a client who was willing to "look at" someone with as little as 3 years experience. With skepticism and caution I shared the details about the position with him and I warned him that even though they stated they would "look at" recent grads they still would rather have someone with at least three years of industry experience. Even after my warnings and words of caution, together we decided to submit him for the role. To say I was nervous would be an understatement! I could almost hear the call that would be coming from my client manager screaming at me about his lack of work experience. The joke was on me however, when less than 24 hours after submitting him to the client we had a request for a telephone interview. Excitedly I called him to tell him the news, and I was shocked to find myself more excited than he was. As I coached him through what to expect on the call he seemed to be absent on the other end of the line. When I questioned whether he was still there he answered affirmatively and thanked me for the coaching and for believing in him enough to submit. Just before we ended the call he told me not to worry because everything would be just fine. I was a bit dumbfounded as I hung up the phone, but I went on with my day. I couldn't believe the drive this kid had!
The telephone interview went perfectly and the client then arranged for a face-to-face interview. Again I called him to coach him through the process and ended the call by letting him know that he should not worry as he was just perfect for the job. He answered by saying "I know I am" and "everything will work out perfect Matt". After his face-to-face the client called our offices with an offer of employment to extend to the kid. I couldn't wait to call him and share the news! When we finally connected on the phone and I told him the great news he was absolutely elated. I congratulated him on a job well done and decided to share with him how I wasn't always so sure it would happen this way. The kid listened to me tell him how I was at first hesitant to submit him for our opening due to his lack of experience etc. After my long story he had a simple response which was "I know".
While I thought that I was being "slick" at putting the kid on the back burner, he knew all along that I was a bit skeptical and frightened to put him in front of a client. When I asked him why he tolerated my behavior if he knew what I was doing he simply stated "I believed in myself and knew that eventually you would believe in me too". The call ended with me having learned a valuable lesson from the kid with no experience, and it was a lesson of a lifetime.
What I learned is that somewhere along the way I stopped believing in myself and I became afraid of change. There have been things in my life that I have wanted to do but somehow never followed through with because of any one of a million excuses. Eventually I had forgotten these things or decided that I just wasn't good enough to make them happen. I could create a story or reason to justify all of the things that I wanted to do but never accomplished. My stories were what stopped me in my life and kept me wondering what could have been or should have been. It became easy to be a victim of circumstances or fault another for my dreams that were unrealized, and by doing so I didn't have to be the one responsible for the inaction that left me feeling this way. In essence I was a victim of myself. The kid helped me to realize that I was the creator of my own destiny, and through hard work and perseverance, along with the help of others, I could achieve anything that I wanted. There was no need to give up and there is no such thing as defeat. The word "fail" just doesn't exist and change is byproduct of growth and success. My perceived failures were in reality nothing more than a temporary setback that would eventually lead to my success.
The kid went on to accept the position at the game company that I was afraid to submit him to, and to this day he continues to be employed there and he is a huge success. After I learned my valuable lesson from this kid I decided to follow his lead and begin to take action in seeing my own dreams come true. I was determined to succeed regardless of any setbacks, and this time I was not going to give up! Because of the lessons I learned from this kid, RecruiterBuddy was born, and since its birth I have not looked back! I often ask myself what else there is to learn from all of these kids with no real life experience?? What do you think?
RecruiterBuddy is a fully web-based software designed to maximize your potential and allow your dreams to come true! We specialize in creating solutions unique to each customer that will increase profitability and cut back administrative tasks. The RecruiterBuddy package comes complete with a Parsing feature as well as our proprietary Sleuth Tool that will source new talent outside of your database and find hard to locate talent. RecruiterBuddy offers the best value at only $50 per user monthly and requires no long-term commitments. I encourage you to take the next step in following your dreams, no matter what they may be, and give us a call if you need a helping hand to see them become reality!
The kid speaking to me on the phone was typical of most college grads that I had grown accustomed to speaking to. He described his studies to me and he was sure to go into great detail about the projects that he had worked on. By trade he was an animator, and I will admit that the animation that he did for his class projects looked pretty good. After listening to him speak for a few minutes I began to steer the call toward a conclusion so that I could get on with my day. At this point in my career as a recruiter I had a standard closing line that I almost always used when trying to end a call with a candidate that I thought was too junior to present to one of our clients. The line went something like... "I will keep your resume on file and update you if any of our clients are looking for good entry level talent". Just as I began to speak the first few words of that sentence the kid interrupted me. He said something that I will never forget, which was "I need someone to believe in me enough, if only once, just long enough for me to show them how good I am" "That being said, I am asking you to give me a shot and believe in me." I was stopped dead in my tracks and speechless! What was I to say to THAT! Reluctantly I agreed to see what I could do for him. My suggestion was that he create a new demo reel with his best recent work and supply me with the link within 5 days. I promised to review his work and get back to him with my thoughts in one week's time. The kid agreed and I got back to work cold calling the "seasoned" candidates on my list in hopes of making a placement happen soon. To be honest I figured that he would forget to send me the demo I requested and that I could just forget about him. In fact, after a hour or so I had completely forgot about him and his call all together. That is until the fourth day came and I received the link to the demo that I had requested.
Honestly I had mixed emotions when the link to his demo arrived in my inbox. My Client Manager was a veteran recruiter and she scrutinized my candidates very closely before submitting them to the client. She was good at what she did, and there was no arguing her decisions. One of the main rules was no entry level or fresh graduates. I was told over and over that our clients did not want kids out of school. So, with those thoughts running through my head, I clicked the link to the demo site. Had I not known this demo was sent from a newly graduated student, I would have guessed it to be that of an industry veteran! It was GOOD! The demo was so good that I actually picked up the phone right then and called the kid! I really didn't fully believe that I was looking at his work. Really...it was that good. The kid picked up the phone on the second ring and his voice sounded just as confident and assured as the first time we spoke. He chuckled when I asked him if what I was watching was really his work. I honestly couldn't figure out why someone hadn't already hired this kid! In fact, that was my next question actually...what has been the outcome of his interviews or resumes. With his usual confidence, the kid explained to me that he has yet to be called back, never mind an interview. Before I could stop myself I said to him "that's a shame because you have such great talent and you must get really down and out about the lack of response". My statement was quickly corrected with his response. "NO...I am not discouraged at all". "I know that I am good and soon enough I will have my turn". I wasn't so sure he was right though, and I told him that sometimes things just don't work out.
Weeks went by and the kid would continue to check in with me. By this point is was just over a month since I received his demo, and there wasn't a single requisition that allowed for less than 7 years experience. I never presented his resume anywhere because I didn't want to look bad or get chewed out by my client manager, and I kind of hoped that he would eventually just give up. Then came the call that I had been anticipating but dreading...his call. He was calling to check in and to ask me if there was anything new to share with him. While he was on the phone I looked over our open requisitions and I was prepared to deliver my standard "NO" when I remembered a client who was willing to "look at" someone with as little as 3 years experience. With skepticism and caution I shared the details about the position with him and I warned him that even though they stated they would "look at" recent grads they still would rather have someone with at least three years of industry experience. Even after my warnings and words of caution, together we decided to submit him for the role. To say I was nervous would be an understatement! I could almost hear the call that would be coming from my client manager screaming at me about his lack of work experience. The joke was on me however, when less than 24 hours after submitting him to the client we had a request for a telephone interview. Excitedly I called him to tell him the news, and I was shocked to find myself more excited than he was. As I coached him through what to expect on the call he seemed to be absent on the other end of the line. When I questioned whether he was still there he answered affirmatively and thanked me for the coaching and for believing in him enough to submit. Just before we ended the call he told me not to worry because everything would be just fine. I was a bit dumbfounded as I hung up the phone, but I went on with my day. I couldn't believe the drive this kid had!
The telephone interview went perfectly and the client then arranged for a face-to-face interview. Again I called him to coach him through the process and ended the call by letting him know that he should not worry as he was just perfect for the job. He answered by saying "I know I am" and "everything will work out perfect Matt". After his face-to-face the client called our offices with an offer of employment to extend to the kid. I couldn't wait to call him and share the news! When we finally connected on the phone and I told him the great news he was absolutely elated. I congratulated him on a job well done and decided to share with him how I wasn't always so sure it would happen this way. The kid listened to me tell him how I was at first hesitant to submit him for our opening due to his lack of experience etc. After my long story he had a simple response which was "I know".
While I thought that I was being "slick" at putting the kid on the back burner, he knew all along that I was a bit skeptical and frightened to put him in front of a client. When I asked him why he tolerated my behavior if he knew what I was doing he simply stated "I believed in myself and knew that eventually you would believe in me too". The call ended with me having learned a valuable lesson from the kid with no experience, and it was a lesson of a lifetime.
What I learned is that somewhere along the way I stopped believing in myself and I became afraid of change. There have been things in my life that I have wanted to do but somehow never followed through with because of any one of a million excuses. Eventually I had forgotten these things or decided that I just wasn't good enough to make them happen. I could create a story or reason to justify all of the things that I wanted to do but never accomplished. My stories were what stopped me in my life and kept me wondering what could have been or should have been. It became easy to be a victim of circumstances or fault another for my dreams that were unrealized, and by doing so I didn't have to be the one responsible for the inaction that left me feeling this way. In essence I was a victim of myself. The kid helped me to realize that I was the creator of my own destiny, and through hard work and perseverance, along with the help of others, I could achieve anything that I wanted. There was no need to give up and there is no such thing as defeat. The word "fail" just doesn't exist and change is byproduct of growth and success. My perceived failures were in reality nothing more than a temporary setback that would eventually lead to my success.
The kid went on to accept the position at the game company that I was afraid to submit him to, and to this day he continues to be employed there and he is a huge success. After I learned my valuable lesson from this kid I decided to follow his lead and begin to take action in seeing my own dreams come true. I was determined to succeed regardless of any setbacks, and this time I was not going to give up! Because of the lessons I learned from this kid, RecruiterBuddy was born, and since its birth I have not looked back! I often ask myself what else there is to learn from all of these kids with no real life experience?? What do you think?
RecruiterBuddy is a fully web-based software designed to maximize your potential and allow your dreams to come true! We specialize in creating solutions unique to each customer that will increase profitability and cut back administrative tasks. The RecruiterBuddy package comes complete with a Parsing feature as well as our proprietary Sleuth Tool that will source new talent outside of your database and find hard to locate talent. RecruiterBuddy offers the best value at only $50 per user monthly and requires no long-term commitments. I encourage you to take the next step in following your dreams, no matter what they may be, and give us a call if you need a helping hand to see them become reality!
Wednesday, June 9, 2010
The Dash
There are a few things in life that are just beyond our control, and then there is the rest which we have a "say" in. Obviously we didn't have any say in the fact that we were born. We couldn't choose the day, the time, or our parents, etc. Everything was basically out of our control. Eventually we will all die, and if let alone to nature we really don't have much say in that event either. It's what happens between those dates, the dash, that we have a major impact on. This is the story that we get to write for ourselves and to direct as we see fit.
The dash...sure it seems so inconsequential and can almost appear to be just boring in fact. In reality, it is the dash that is our legacy, and the one part of life that we get to choose for the most part. It is the dash that tells the story of who we were and what we did while on this earth. It is the dash that most people will remember us by and reflect back upon. Unfortunately more often than not most people forget that WE are the writers of the dash and WE get to fill in the blank that exists between birth and death. It's not unusual for people to take the position that we are at the effect of our life instead of being the cause.
You feel stuck in your job and unable to get things accomplished. Your job is just ruining your life and you are unhappy. Put bluntly, you are at the effect of your job. Guess what? You have a say in the matter! If you don't like your job you should change it! Perhaps it isn't your job at all, but perhaps it is just you being you. When you realize that you are in the position that you are in because you choose to be in it, you can transform the very experience at hand. Instead of feeling trapped, stuck, or underutilized, you can see things for what they really are. You are where you are because that is where you choose to be. It is not your job that is ruining your life, but it is you that allows yourself to be dictated by your job. If you really wanted to make a change you would have already done so, but that requires you to take action and be responsible for what's happening in your own life. It is just way easier to sit back and blame something else outside of yourself. You get to be the victim and have everyone feel bad for you. However, there is no power in this. Life will continue with you as the victim as a reoccurring theme. Example: Didn't get that promotion? Must be because they didn't like you. Your child didn't make the team that they tried out for? It must be because the other kid's parents donate so much to the school. That college didn't accept you? Well it's only because they needed to fill their minority quota. The story goes on and on and we can continue to find excuses or reasons for everything that didn't work out in your life. All of the reasons we come up with will make you the victim of your own life, and at the effect of your life. Alternatively we can look at things for what they are. Example: I didn't make that promotion because I didn't make the promotion. Now, there may be things that I could have done to better my chances at landing that promotion. Perhaps I should take a look at what those things could have been. My child didn't make the team because he didn't make the team. What can I do to better prepare him for the next try-out? The college didn't accept me because they didn't accept me. What areas might I improve upon to be considered the next time around? It is the context that we operate in that gives us the power to be the writer of our own destiny. It's time to get off the sidelines and get into the game! Write your dash and create you for who you know yourself to be!
RecruiterBuddy is designed to CAUSE your success! We have made it possible to have all the tools necessary for you to succeed right at your fingertips. If you want to succeed as a recruiter, then cause yourself to be a success by being in action and using the software that will empower that success. There is no reason that you aren't making the placements that you could be making other than you don't really want to. Cause yourself to take the next step and explore just how RecruiterBuddy will cause your success!
Are you sitting on the sidelines allowing your destiny to be dictated by others? Are you at the effect of your life or are you causing yourself to be who you want to be? This is not a dress rehearsal, and you have only one shot to make things happen. What are you doing about it?
The dash...sure it seems so inconsequential and can almost appear to be just boring in fact. In reality, it is the dash that is our legacy, and the one part of life that we get to choose for the most part. It is the dash that tells the story of who we were and what we did while on this earth. It is the dash that most people will remember us by and reflect back upon. Unfortunately more often than not most people forget that WE are the writers of the dash and WE get to fill in the blank that exists between birth and death. It's not unusual for people to take the position that we are at the effect of our life instead of being the cause.
You feel stuck in your job and unable to get things accomplished. Your job is just ruining your life and you are unhappy. Put bluntly, you are at the effect of your job. Guess what? You have a say in the matter! If you don't like your job you should change it! Perhaps it isn't your job at all, but perhaps it is just you being you. When you realize that you are in the position that you are in because you choose to be in it, you can transform the very experience at hand. Instead of feeling trapped, stuck, or underutilized, you can see things for what they really are. You are where you are because that is where you choose to be. It is not your job that is ruining your life, but it is you that allows yourself to be dictated by your job. If you really wanted to make a change you would have already done so, but that requires you to take action and be responsible for what's happening in your own life. It is just way easier to sit back and blame something else outside of yourself. You get to be the victim and have everyone feel bad for you. However, there is no power in this. Life will continue with you as the victim as a reoccurring theme. Example: Didn't get that promotion? Must be because they didn't like you. Your child didn't make the team that they tried out for? It must be because the other kid's parents donate so much to the school. That college didn't accept you? Well it's only because they needed to fill their minority quota. The story goes on and on and we can continue to find excuses or reasons for everything that didn't work out in your life. All of the reasons we come up with will make you the victim of your own life, and at the effect of your life. Alternatively we can look at things for what they are. Example: I didn't make that promotion because I didn't make the promotion. Now, there may be things that I could have done to better my chances at landing that promotion. Perhaps I should take a look at what those things could have been. My child didn't make the team because he didn't make the team. What can I do to better prepare him for the next try-out? The college didn't accept me because they didn't accept me. What areas might I improve upon to be considered the next time around? It is the context that we operate in that gives us the power to be the writer of our own destiny. It's time to get off the sidelines and get into the game! Write your dash and create you for who you know yourself to be!
RecruiterBuddy is designed to CAUSE your success! We have made it possible to have all the tools necessary for you to succeed right at your fingertips. If you want to succeed as a recruiter, then cause yourself to be a success by being in action and using the software that will empower that success. There is no reason that you aren't making the placements that you could be making other than you don't really want to. Cause yourself to take the next step and explore just how RecruiterBuddy will cause your success!
Are you sitting on the sidelines allowing your destiny to be dictated by others? Are you at the effect of your life or are you causing yourself to be who you want to be? This is not a dress rehearsal, and you have only one shot to make things happen. What are you doing about it?
Monday, May 24, 2010
Are You Listening?
Have you ever had an entire conversation with somebody only to feel like your point was not heard? I can say that I have had this happen to me on several occasions. This phenomenon is even more frustrating if the conversation is one that was designed to settle a dispute or argument of some type, or a conversation that involved an important negotiation. Whether it be an argument between spouses, a negotiation between two parties, or even two friends that are just catching up on what's happened during their day, we all have a "need" to feel heard and understood. People want to feel that what they are saying is being understood and "gotten". So how do we actually make sure that we are being "gotten"? I suggest that a good place to start is to begin by being present to others when they are speaking, and practice "getting" them.
Being present is not about being in the room or occupying the same space as the person that is speaking to you. When I say being present what I really mean is being in the conversation, and tuning out that little voice in the back of your head (the one speaking to you right now) that has you doing everything but actually listening. Instead of listening, that little voice has preparing for your eventual response to what the other person is saying, or it may have you thinking about things you should be doing instead of listening to the person speak. When you are present to the conversation at hand you are actually hearing the concerns of the person speaking to you, and you are getting the context of the matter at hand. Formulating your response is no longer at the forefront, rather listening to what the other is communicating to you becomes the sole intention. As you exercise this "muscle" of becoming more and more present to people that are speaking to you, eventually you will discover that you are able to identify the concern or context from which the communication is being delivered. Most conversations actually stem from an area of concern, or a particular context, with the hopes of achieving a specific outcome. The outcome doesn't necessarily need to be one of earth rattling consequences either, but could be one designed to just tell the listener "I am sad today" or "I need a friend". In other words the desired outcome or message could be anything. Being present during the conversation taking place will ultimately expose that area of concern, message, or specific context, and allow for more efficient and effective communication to take place. Ultimately, when the person speaking begins to notice that you are truly listening to what's being said, they will feel "gotten" and their concern, having been now dealt with, will fade allowing them to be present to you when you speak.
When we are listening to a person speak from the context of "I need to respond" we are truly not being present to the person we are communicating with. From the minute the conversation begins, you are not listening from the context of there is something to be heard here, but rather from "I need to quickly have something to respond with". Essentially you have just checked out of the entire conversation in order to make sure that you have a response ready to be delivered. Can you imagine the entire waste of time involved with this type of communication? How many deals could you have closed or candidates recruited had you only listened to the concerns at hand? Think of the arguments that would not have occurred or the repeated conversations that would have been unnecessary had you only been present to begin with. The art of listening is something that needs to be exercised on a daily basis in order for it to become second nature to you. The more you actually listen, and the less you allow yourself to listen to your little inner voice, the more time you will save in the long run and the stronger your relationships will become.
Take a moment to just imagine the relationships that you could improve, or even the new ones that you might create, if you would just begin to actually practice being present during a conversation. As a recruiter, your listening is ultimately one of the most important tools that you possess. Through your listening you can establish not only what the client's needs are, but you can also establish what your candidates concerns are. Not knowing these concerns can ultimately lead to a failed interview or to losing that relationship with your candidate. Listening to your candidates and being fully present during your conversations with them will not only build trust and a long-term relationship, but it may also lead to referrals that turn into placements in the days to come. You can be sure that when a candidate (or client for that matter) feels that they have been fully heard with their concerns understood and being handled, they will feel a sense of relief that will lead to them wanting to share this experience with others.
The RecruiterBuddy software was designed after listening to the concerns of recruiters, and with a full understanding of what was most desired in a software package. It was through this listening that RecruiterBuddy was born, and through this listening that RecruiterBuddy continues to be the most user friendly, low cost, web-based software currently on the market that offers innovative sourcing and parsing tools. We listened to what you wanted and we built it!
So I leave you with this...how many times did your inner voice interrupt you while you read this blog entry? What was the context or concern trying to be communicated?
Being present is not about being in the room or occupying the same space as the person that is speaking to you. When I say being present what I really mean is being in the conversation, and tuning out that little voice in the back of your head (the one speaking to you right now) that has you doing everything but actually listening. Instead of listening, that little voice has preparing for your eventual response to what the other person is saying, or it may have you thinking about things you should be doing instead of listening to the person speak. When you are present to the conversation at hand you are actually hearing the concerns of the person speaking to you, and you are getting the context of the matter at hand. Formulating your response is no longer at the forefront, rather listening to what the other is communicating to you becomes the sole intention. As you exercise this "muscle" of becoming more and more present to people that are speaking to you, eventually you will discover that you are able to identify the concern or context from which the communication is being delivered. Most conversations actually stem from an area of concern, or a particular context, with the hopes of achieving a specific outcome. The outcome doesn't necessarily need to be one of earth rattling consequences either, but could be one designed to just tell the listener "I am sad today" or "I need a friend". In other words the desired outcome or message could be anything. Being present during the conversation taking place will ultimately expose that area of concern, message, or specific context, and allow for more efficient and effective communication to take place. Ultimately, when the person speaking begins to notice that you are truly listening to what's being said, they will feel "gotten" and their concern, having been now dealt with, will fade allowing them to be present to you when you speak.
When we are listening to a person speak from the context of "I need to respond" we are truly not being present to the person we are communicating with. From the minute the conversation begins, you are not listening from the context of there is something to be heard here, but rather from "I need to quickly have something to respond with". Essentially you have just checked out of the entire conversation in order to make sure that you have a response ready to be delivered. Can you imagine the entire waste of time involved with this type of communication? How many deals could you have closed or candidates recruited had you only listened to the concerns at hand? Think of the arguments that would not have occurred or the repeated conversations that would have been unnecessary had you only been present to begin with. The art of listening is something that needs to be exercised on a daily basis in order for it to become second nature to you. The more you actually listen, and the less you allow yourself to listen to your little inner voice, the more time you will save in the long run and the stronger your relationships will become.
Take a moment to just imagine the relationships that you could improve, or even the new ones that you might create, if you would just begin to actually practice being present during a conversation. As a recruiter, your listening is ultimately one of the most important tools that you possess. Through your listening you can establish not only what the client's needs are, but you can also establish what your candidates concerns are. Not knowing these concerns can ultimately lead to a failed interview or to losing that relationship with your candidate. Listening to your candidates and being fully present during your conversations with them will not only build trust and a long-term relationship, but it may also lead to referrals that turn into placements in the days to come. You can be sure that when a candidate (or client for that matter) feels that they have been fully heard with their concerns understood and being handled, they will feel a sense of relief that will lead to them wanting to share this experience with others.
The RecruiterBuddy software was designed after listening to the concerns of recruiters, and with a full understanding of what was most desired in a software package. It was through this listening that RecruiterBuddy was born, and through this listening that RecruiterBuddy continues to be the most user friendly, low cost, web-based software currently on the market that offers innovative sourcing and parsing tools. We listened to what you wanted and we built it!
So I leave you with this...how many times did your inner voice interrupt you while you read this blog entry? What was the context or concern trying to be communicated?
Tuesday, March 30, 2010
Lessons For A New Recruiter
I have often heard that a good plan is essential for success, and for the most part I agree. That being said though, a good plan was definitely something that I was lacking when I entered the recruiting industry. I began my career as a recruiter out of necessity. Why necessity? Well I had just lost my job, and it was necessary that I have money to eat, pay bills, and ultimately survive. A new career was not in my game plan by any stretch of the imagination, and recruiting was foreign to me in every aspect. Sure, I knew what was meant by the verb recruit, but I had no clue how the job was accomplished or anything else beyond the root meaning. Just to make sure that all the odds were working against me, I also began my recruiter career by recruiting for an industry that I had absolutely no interest in or experience with- video games. So unless my idea of a good plan also involved starting a new career in an area that I lacked knowledge or even interest, I was going to need a good plan quickly!
The first item on my "to do" list was to align myself with an experienced recruiter who knew the industry well, and most importantly someone who enjoyed their job! It's easy to find someone to teach the "doings" involved in the work, but to find someone who is passionate about what they do and the service they provided was key for me. I found that passion and experience in one of the client managers at the firm I worked for, and I immediately aligned myself with her. Her name is Maria Barton, a no nonsense Brit with a work ethic that most people could only aspire to achieve, and the people skills akin to some of the world's greatest leaders. She knew how to talk to a complete stranger, be it over the phone or in person, and she could quickly build a bond of trust that would serve as a foundation for years to come. It seemed as if there wasn't a single person in the Video Games Industry that didn't know of her, and they all had nothing but good to say about their experiences with her. Maria was my new mentor and ultimately she became a great friend as well, but she also had a lot of work in front of her if she hoped to turn me into a recruiter! I had a lot to learn about recruiting in general, like learning how to build my own network for referrals, knowing how to use the many different social networking sites to source, cold calling, etc. This list of things to learn and master was a long one, but there were a few key lessons that Maria taught me which in hindsight was key to my success.
Lesson #1- Know your client. Maria stressed this to me from the minute we first talked! Knowing who the client is, where they have come from, and where they hope to be in the future is important. Sure, anyone can read a paragraph or two about a client and regurgitate the information to a prospective candidate, but I didn't want to be anyone, and Maria certainly wasn't going to allow me to "be" an anyone either! Great details were given to me about the "environment" of each one of our client's studios and what a candidate could expect. The product lineup and company vision where also important pieces of information that I was to know. Knowing how the client handled promotions and acquiring new talent was key, as was knowing the general background of each person that made up the management staff. I can go on and on here about what it really meant to Maria when she said "Know your client", but the real message is just as simple as the phrase implies. Knowing as much about a client as possible will always translate into higher placement percentages and stronger candidate relationships.
Lesson #2- Know your candidate. This phrase sounded simple enough to me when I first heard it. After all, I was going to be interviewing each person anyway so wouldn't I end up knowing them by proxy? Yeah, I was in for another surprise. When Maria told me to "Know my candidates", she really meant to know them! There was one time that I spent 45 minutes on the phone interviewing a candidate just to make sure that I knew everything there was to know. I knew where he worked, what he earned, and all of that other stuff, but it turned out that I didn't really know anything about him at all. I didn't take the time to learn the candidate's likes & dislikes, preferences in climate if he were to relocate, social activities outside of work, what his spouse did for work, special needs of his children, where he grew up and where the majority of his family still lived, etc. This was important information to know if my plans were to eventually place him in a new job. From a business standpoint, the small details that I forgot to ask could later result in a deal breaker. More important was that each candidate left our conversation knowing that I actually cared enough to listen, and that I had their best interests and concerns at heart. Looking back, it was the practice of really knowing my candidates that contributed the most to my success. The worst thing that will ever come from knowing a candidate is their trust. Ironically, trust is something that some recruiters struggle to earn throughout their entire career.
Lesson #3- Get on the phone. In today's society the majority of our communicating is done electronically. We are sending emails, tweeting, posting, texting, and whatever else I may have forgotten. Communication is most effective when the person trying to communicate something knows that they are being heard and understood. People like to experience being heard, or put simply, everybody wants to be "gotten". Obviously we can't have every conversation in person, so the next best is to communicate often and effectively over the phone. That's not to say that the phone is the only way to communicate, but instead of building a relationship that only exists over emails, tweets, posts, and texts, throw in the occasional phone call as well. No matter how it gets delivered, the written word quite often leaves a lot of room for interpretation. The reader may not always conclude with your desired message either. When a candidate (active or passive) speaks to their recruiter on occasion they will begin to see that there is actually a partnership being forged and that the recruiter has their best interests in mind. Keeping up with a candidates changing concerns and desires will build a relatedness between recruiter and candidate that will truly stand the test of time. Communicating involves much more than speaking though, it also involves listening. When a candidate knows that their recruiter is actually listening to their concerns, those same concerns will fade away or disappear altogether, because they know that the recruiter understands them and will handle them.
Lesson #4- Know when to move on. My step-father had a hobby that involved looking at houses that were for sale, and to this day I still don't understand it. On each family vacation he would pack us into the car and spend several hours looking at homes that were for sale. He wouldn't look at places that he couldn't afford to buy or couldn't qualify for, rather he would look at each as if he were really buying it and we were moving. I can't count how many I was convinced we were actually moving, and I can only imagine the frustration the Realtors went through each and every time! Well everyone has a hobby, that was my dad's, and we never moved. The moral of the story? Some people are professional "lookers", just as my dad was when he looked at property for sale. If you really listen to a prospective candidate when you speak to them it's easier to spot the professional "looker". The professional looker is usually just fishing for information or checking out the market, but he really has no intentions of switching careers. The "looker" may even go as far as the offer stage before backing out of the role. Knowing that these types are out there, and learning how to spot them and walk away is important. There is only so much time in one day and it needs to be used wisely. Of course, the "looker" might someday become a "mover", or a great bird-dog, so treating each person with respect and kindness is always key.
The lessons I learned from Maria Barton are such that they will be an asset to me no matter what my career. As far as recruiters go, I think she is the best. She taught me more than I could ever hope to capture on paper, and more than she will ever realize. I believe that it is her passion for her job and the humanity that she brings to it that makes her a huge success. I can relate to that passion now since I feel it every day when I go to work at RecruiterBuddy. The enormous and quick success of RecruiterBuddy is largely due to the simple yet difficult lessons that Maria taught me. RecruiterBuddy is designed to allow recruiters more time to do what they do best, recruit. We take care of the sourcing, parsing, searching, scheduling, and contact managing so that the recruiters can get back on the phone and start talking again.
Maria still recruits in the Video Game Industry, and I still speak to her on a regular basis to keep up on my "lessons". What "lessons" might you share with someone today?
The first item on my "to do" list was to align myself with an experienced recruiter who knew the industry well, and most importantly someone who enjoyed their job! It's easy to find someone to teach the "doings" involved in the work, but to find someone who is passionate about what they do and the service they provided was key for me. I found that passion and experience in one of the client managers at the firm I worked for, and I immediately aligned myself with her. Her name is Maria Barton, a no nonsense Brit with a work ethic that most people could only aspire to achieve, and the people skills akin to some of the world's greatest leaders. She knew how to talk to a complete stranger, be it over the phone or in person, and she could quickly build a bond of trust that would serve as a foundation for years to come. It seemed as if there wasn't a single person in the Video Games Industry that didn't know of her, and they all had nothing but good to say about their experiences with her. Maria was my new mentor and ultimately she became a great friend as well, but she also had a lot of work in front of her if she hoped to turn me into a recruiter! I had a lot to learn about recruiting in general, like learning how to build my own network for referrals, knowing how to use the many different social networking sites to source, cold calling, etc. This list of things to learn and master was a long one, but there were a few key lessons that Maria taught me which in hindsight was key to my success.
Lesson #1- Know your client. Maria stressed this to me from the minute we first talked! Knowing who the client is, where they have come from, and where they hope to be in the future is important. Sure, anyone can read a paragraph or two about a client and regurgitate the information to a prospective candidate, but I didn't want to be anyone, and Maria certainly wasn't going to allow me to "be" an anyone either! Great details were given to me about the "environment" of each one of our client's studios and what a candidate could expect. The product lineup and company vision where also important pieces of information that I was to know. Knowing how the client handled promotions and acquiring new talent was key, as was knowing the general background of each person that made up the management staff. I can go on and on here about what it really meant to Maria when she said "Know your client", but the real message is just as simple as the phrase implies. Knowing as much about a client as possible will always translate into higher placement percentages and stronger candidate relationships.
Lesson #2- Know your candidate. This phrase sounded simple enough to me when I first heard it. After all, I was going to be interviewing each person anyway so wouldn't I end up knowing them by proxy? Yeah, I was in for another surprise. When Maria told me to "Know my candidates", she really meant to know them! There was one time that I spent 45 minutes on the phone interviewing a candidate just to make sure that I knew everything there was to know. I knew where he worked, what he earned, and all of that other stuff, but it turned out that I didn't really know anything about him at all. I didn't take the time to learn the candidate's likes & dislikes, preferences in climate if he were to relocate, social activities outside of work, what his spouse did for work, special needs of his children, where he grew up and where the majority of his family still lived, etc. This was important information to know if my plans were to eventually place him in a new job. From a business standpoint, the small details that I forgot to ask could later result in a deal breaker. More important was that each candidate left our conversation knowing that I actually cared enough to listen, and that I had their best interests and concerns at heart. Looking back, it was the practice of really knowing my candidates that contributed the most to my success. The worst thing that will ever come from knowing a candidate is their trust. Ironically, trust is something that some recruiters struggle to earn throughout their entire career.
Lesson #3- Get on the phone. In today's society the majority of our communicating is done electronically. We are sending emails, tweeting, posting, texting, and whatever else I may have forgotten. Communication is most effective when the person trying to communicate something knows that they are being heard and understood. People like to experience being heard, or put simply, everybody wants to be "gotten". Obviously we can't have every conversation in person, so the next best is to communicate often and effectively over the phone. That's not to say that the phone is the only way to communicate, but instead of building a relationship that only exists over emails, tweets, posts, and texts, throw in the occasional phone call as well. No matter how it gets delivered, the written word quite often leaves a lot of room for interpretation. The reader may not always conclude with your desired message either. When a candidate (active or passive) speaks to their recruiter on occasion they will begin to see that there is actually a partnership being forged and that the recruiter has their best interests in mind. Keeping up with a candidates changing concerns and desires will build a relatedness between recruiter and candidate that will truly stand the test of time. Communicating involves much more than speaking though, it also involves listening. When a candidate knows that their recruiter is actually listening to their concerns, those same concerns will fade away or disappear altogether, because they know that the recruiter understands them and will handle them.
Lesson #4- Know when to move on. My step-father had a hobby that involved looking at houses that were for sale, and to this day I still don't understand it. On each family vacation he would pack us into the car and spend several hours looking at homes that were for sale. He wouldn't look at places that he couldn't afford to buy or couldn't qualify for, rather he would look at each as if he were really buying it and we were moving. I can't count how many I was convinced we were actually moving, and I can only imagine the frustration the Realtors went through each and every time! Well everyone has a hobby, that was my dad's, and we never moved. The moral of the story? Some people are professional "lookers", just as my dad was when he looked at property for sale. If you really listen to a prospective candidate when you speak to them it's easier to spot the professional "looker". The professional looker is usually just fishing for information or checking out the market, but he really has no intentions of switching careers. The "looker" may even go as far as the offer stage before backing out of the role. Knowing that these types are out there, and learning how to spot them and walk away is important. There is only so much time in one day and it needs to be used wisely. Of course, the "looker" might someday become a "mover", or a great bird-dog, so treating each person with respect and kindness is always key.
The lessons I learned from Maria Barton are such that they will be an asset to me no matter what my career. As far as recruiters go, I think she is the best. She taught me more than I could ever hope to capture on paper, and more than she will ever realize. I believe that it is her passion for her job and the humanity that she brings to it that makes her a huge success. I can relate to that passion now since I feel it every day when I go to work at RecruiterBuddy. The enormous and quick success of RecruiterBuddy is largely due to the simple yet difficult lessons that Maria taught me. RecruiterBuddy is designed to allow recruiters more time to do what they do best, recruit. We take care of the sourcing, parsing, searching, scheduling, and contact managing so that the recruiters can get back on the phone and start talking again.
Maria still recruits in the Video Game Industry, and I still speak to her on a regular basis to keep up on my "lessons". What "lessons" might you share with someone today?
Tuesday, March 16, 2010
Being Yourself & Why It Works
It's funny the way life works sometimes. For years I was a bartender at a very popular local bar, and I was damn good at it too! My customer base was very large, I was making a lot of money, and I loved my job! What more could I ask for?? Life was really good! It was during my tenth year at this particular bar that I heard the terrible news, the bar was just sold to an individual who had no intentions in keeping it open. My "perfect world" had just crumbled in a matter of seconds. I was faced with the need to find new work, and I had no clue what I wanted to do. A few weeks later I was introduced to a guy who owned a recruiting company that specialized in finding talent for the video game industry. After a few short conversations I had accepted a job at their firm as a recruiter. There was a slight hurdle to overcome though. I was not a gamer by any stretch of the imagination and I really had no clue what a recruiter was. This was definitely going to be interesting!
Stepping into the role of a recruiter was challenging for me. For starters, I had absolutely no experience recruiting, and since I was not a player of video games I didn't know what games were popular or even what it took to make a game. One might say that I had a crash course in gaming and recruiting all at once. After a week of training that included writing phone scripts and emails, studying the different jobs within gaming, and learning our database, I was thrown to the dogs and started to make cold calls. I quickly learned that the people I was calling did not want to be bothered at work without a good reason, so I had better have something good to speak to them about. It took me a good month to get comfortable making cold calls, and although I was pulling in some talent, it wasn't the type of talent I needed in order to be making money. The biggest hurdle I had to overcome was my fear of "not knowing what I was talking about". You see I had created this fear for myself, a "story" if you will. The "story" was that I had no idea what the heck I was doing and the person on the other end of the line was going to know that and think I was an idiot. Go ahead and laugh, but it was a real fear of mine! So what did I do? I pretended. Every time I made a call, whether it be to a programmer, designer, artist, executive, whomever, I would pretend to know what I was talking about and talk the way I thought they wanted me to talk. You know what I mean. I used the lingo and terminology that I thought would make me look intelligent. Well let me tell you how well that worked... It didn't work at all! Almost every person I spoke to quickly picked up on the fact that I was trying to fake it to make it. Any chance at building trust and confidence in that new candidate was lost by my decision to "fake it". My need to "look good" was quickly putting an end to my new career in recruiting. While the number of phone calls I was making daily was on the rise, my submissions weekly were declining. It was apparent that something needed to change and change quickly! That's when it dawned on me. I decided to just be myself. I gave up trying to "look good" and I gave up trying to "talk the talk" that I thought the candidate wanted to hear. The results were astounding!
I am not an expert in the art of recruitment, nor do I profess to have all the answers to sourcing new talent effectively, but what I do know is that people like honesty. When I decided to just be "myself" in all of my conversations with candidates, be they new or existing ones, the whole experience shifted. I was relaxed and confident, and the candidate picked up on that confidence and allowed more time to listen to what I had to say. When I was being "myself" on the phone and not trying to impress, the candidate was able to hear the honesty and confidence in my voice which set the tone for the entire conversation. Sure, in my mind I was also being vulnerable, but I assert that my vulnerability translated into honesty on the other end of the phone. My conversations went from "talking the talk" to "being myself" and speaking to the candidate as I would a long-time friend. I didn't change "me" because being "me" was something that had always worked in the past. The results were dramatic! My submissions nearly doubled, I started to get referrals, and I even made my first two placements! People are just people, and when we treat them with honesty and respect we will get the same in return. Going into a conversation with anybody and trying to force an outcome almost never works. When it does work it's usually followed up with negative fallout. Be yourself in all that you do and trust in "who" you are. If you can trust in who you are then everyone you speak to will too!
My career as a recruiter lasted longer than most would have guessed. The results I achieved when I shifted my way of being were miraculous. The year 2009 was my last year as a recruiter, and in that year I was the #1 earner for the company. I left recruiting to start RecruiterBuddy which is a software package designed for recruiters. Many people thought I was crazy given the state of the world's economy. I can't count how many times I heard "you are going to fail, this isn't the right time". RecruiterBuddy has been operating for more than three months now and we are growing at a very rapid pace! Why? I am true to myself, I listen, and I don't force an outcome. People respect that. Just be yourself and the results will amaze you!
Stepping into the role of a recruiter was challenging for me. For starters, I had absolutely no experience recruiting, and since I was not a player of video games I didn't know what games were popular or even what it took to make a game. One might say that I had a crash course in gaming and recruiting all at once. After a week of training that included writing phone scripts and emails, studying the different jobs within gaming, and learning our database, I was thrown to the dogs and started to make cold calls. I quickly learned that the people I was calling did not want to be bothered at work without a good reason, so I had better have something good to speak to them about. It took me a good month to get comfortable making cold calls, and although I was pulling in some talent, it wasn't the type of talent I needed in order to be making money. The biggest hurdle I had to overcome was my fear of "not knowing what I was talking about". You see I had created this fear for myself, a "story" if you will. The "story" was that I had no idea what the heck I was doing and the person on the other end of the line was going to know that and think I was an idiot. Go ahead and laugh, but it was a real fear of mine! So what did I do? I pretended. Every time I made a call, whether it be to a programmer, designer, artist, executive, whomever, I would pretend to know what I was talking about and talk the way I thought they wanted me to talk. You know what I mean. I used the lingo and terminology that I thought would make me look intelligent. Well let me tell you how well that worked... It didn't work at all! Almost every person I spoke to quickly picked up on the fact that I was trying to fake it to make it. Any chance at building trust and confidence in that new candidate was lost by my decision to "fake it". My need to "look good" was quickly putting an end to my new career in recruiting. While the number of phone calls I was making daily was on the rise, my submissions weekly were declining. It was apparent that something needed to change and change quickly! That's when it dawned on me. I decided to just be myself. I gave up trying to "look good" and I gave up trying to "talk the talk" that I thought the candidate wanted to hear. The results were astounding!
I am not an expert in the art of recruitment, nor do I profess to have all the answers to sourcing new talent effectively, but what I do know is that people like honesty. When I decided to just be "myself" in all of my conversations with candidates, be they new or existing ones, the whole experience shifted. I was relaxed and confident, and the candidate picked up on that confidence and allowed more time to listen to what I had to say. When I was being "myself" on the phone and not trying to impress, the candidate was able to hear the honesty and confidence in my voice which set the tone for the entire conversation. Sure, in my mind I was also being vulnerable, but I assert that my vulnerability translated into honesty on the other end of the phone. My conversations went from "talking the talk" to "being myself" and speaking to the candidate as I would a long-time friend. I didn't change "me" because being "me" was something that had always worked in the past. The results were dramatic! My submissions nearly doubled, I started to get referrals, and I even made my first two placements! People are just people, and when we treat them with honesty and respect we will get the same in return. Going into a conversation with anybody and trying to force an outcome almost never works. When it does work it's usually followed up with negative fallout. Be yourself in all that you do and trust in "who" you are. If you can trust in who you are then everyone you speak to will too!
My career as a recruiter lasted longer than most would have guessed. The results I achieved when I shifted my way of being were miraculous. The year 2009 was my last year as a recruiter, and in that year I was the #1 earner for the company. I left recruiting to start RecruiterBuddy which is a software package designed for recruiters. Many people thought I was crazy given the state of the world's economy. I can't count how many times I heard "you are going to fail, this isn't the right time". RecruiterBuddy has been operating for more than three months now and we are growing at a very rapid pace! Why? I am true to myself, I listen, and I don't force an outcome. People respect that. Just be yourself and the results will amaze you!
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